Asking friends and family members for help with transportation needs for your aging adult is definitely something for you to consider. But it can be trickier than you think it might be at first.
Schedules Need to Match Up
If the people you’re asking to help with transportation don’t have the time to do so, that’s a big problem. You might also find that someone says yes but then doesn’t really have time to help your senior run errands or wait for her to finish what she needs to do. And some appointments, like a doctor’s appointment, may take longer than anyone thinks at first. People who are helping your aging adult need to be able to freely devote some time to the task.
If They’re Not Willing, Don’t Push It
Because of the time and effort involved, some friends and family members might tell you no right off the bat. It’s not a good idea to try to convince anyone to do it anyway. If you do take that strategy, you may wind up contributing to resentment, especially if people need to rearrange their own schedules.
Try for a Trade
Another factor to consider is that many people don’t like to do something, even for someone they love, with the feeling that the situation is one-sided. Offer gas money or trade something else that you can do, such as babysitting for them or helping them with some other task. You might even offer to make dinner or take the person to lunch. The trade can be even simpler, too. Some people just really need to feel appreciated, so be sure to offer a genuine “thank you.”
Have Another Option
Priorities and schedules can change rapidly for a friend or family member who offers to help with transportation for your elderly family member. There may suddenly be a sick child or another situation that takes precedence. This is when it’s vital to have a backup such as elder care providers. Not only can they help her with her errands, they’re not going to need coaxing to help.
The really important part is that whoever helps out with your senior’s transportation needs is both willing and able to do so.
Excerpt: Asking friends and family to help out with transportation for your aging adult is perfectly understandable and normal. But sometimes it’s not the perfect solution, even if it seems like it should be.